Today, we will look at Christian Dating/Courtship versus the mixed messages the world we live in gives us on what dating/courting is.
People try to complicate Christian dating, however christian dating is simple, God first and then relationship second and so forth.
Matthew 6:33 reads:
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
It seems so cliche to quote Matt 6:33, but its never been more truer.
So, what are God’s thoughts on relationships, love and marriage?
Christian Dating or Courtship Lesson 1
Putting God First is about you and your relationship with God.
There are so many things that cry out for our attention and devotion: our hobbies, work and even relationships.
Relationships whilst great, can also become a distraction if not careful.
Distraction if not careful, can lead to destruction.
Therefore, we have to be careful not to let them become more important than our relationship with God.
The first of the Ten Commandments states we will have no other gods before Him (reference Exodus 20:3).
And Deuteronomy 5:8-9 says;
You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind, or an image of anything in the heavens or on the earth or in the sea.
You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God
who will not tolerate your affection for any other gods (NLT).
Christian Dating or Courtship Lesson 2
Building the right foundation is very important.
One of the most fundamental thing in a relationship is the other person’s feelings towards Jesus.
If the person you’re dating doesn’t love Jesus like you do, my personal advice from experience is, run away from the relationship.
However, if you feel called (highly doubtful) to that relationship by God for a specific reason and you are certain, then stick it out.
It is never a good decision to become involved with someone that doesn’t love God like you do.
This will set you up for lots of heartache in the future.
“Don’t become partners with those who reject God.
How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong?
That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark?” – 2 Cor 6:14 (Message)
Christian Dating or Courtship Lesson 3
Keeping God at the center of everything.
The key to successful Christian dating/courtship is keeping God at the center of your relationship.
Pray together and apart. Pray for one another. Hold each other accountable!
Have an accountability couple you can trust and be open with to seek guidance.
Life is hard and there will be hard days, therefore be kind, forgiving and speak gently to one another.
Most importantly always ask yourself ‘would God be happy with our decisions.’
Christian Dating or Courtship Lesson 4
Friendship first is best.
Beauty is fleeting and attraction can fade, but a relationship built on friendship has its roots deeply planted.
You may have down days, but you will always find yourselves again as friends first and work your way up with that.
Therefore, relationships built on a solid foundation of friendship will be much more likely to succeed.
Christian Dating or Courtship Lesson 5
Just a little bit of fun, but there are consequences also.
Many have argued and advocated that God wants us to have fun in our youth, therefore why should we limit our joy?
Have joy, O young man, while you are young; and let your heart be glad in the days of your strength,
and go in the ways of your heart, and in the desire of your eyes;
but be certain that for all these things God will be your judge.
This is one of my favourite scriptures but, I always almost roll my eyes when people choose to purposely ignore the part that reads
that whilst it is okay to choose our way “be certain that for all these things God will be your judge.”
Let us choose wisely how we spend our youth, whom and how we choose to date/court.
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