5 weeks after John Gray was installed as the new Pastor or Relentless Church, rumors started circulating that Gray had allegedly cheated on his wife, following a sermon some have classed as the admission of his “mischief”.
Many publications made speculations around the sermon posted on YouTube, where Gray says that no one knew what was happening with him and his wife behind closed doors.
“We had to keep smiling because even though we were struggling,” Gray reveals. “Even though I was failing as a husband, I was already in front of the people and the people can’t really receive my brokenness because where do leaders go when they belled? So I had to bleed alone. And what’s strange is I traveled the whole world and the Holy Ghost showed up and people got saved me and my wife just kept smiling and nobody knew we were getting ready to get a divorce. Because as long as I kept producing, nobody cared what was happening at home.”
He then added “I started listening to the wrong voices and let some people get too close. She found out and she set it off just like a good wife should.”
Aventer, his wife, jumped in as she took the mic to express her thought pertaining to the situation that was happening or had happened;
“And then I prayed for them and him and then the devil loses,” she said. “Because what’s not going to happen is you tell me that I’m going to lose my purpose because someone whispered to a 16-year old John. The devil is a lie. I’m standing with my husband and you can go back to the pits of hell where you came from. Was I upset? Yes. Was I heartbroken? Yes But you better learn how to get in there for the- what’s the vows? Better and worst shows up you don’t run away.”
We saw the sermon when it was posted, but our take on it was that Pastor Gray made mistake in his younger days before marriage and ministry (most likely) hence we didn’t feel the need to jump on the train of speculation then and make it into something. However, we could be wrong and are yet to find out the truth today.
In typical fashion, Aventer took to Instagram and twitter early hours of Monday where she expressed her feelings by saying;
“Everyone else has had their moment to post what they think they know. We share from our heart and clarify the REAL on
@therealdaytime this morning at 11a.m. EST. Oh yeah!!! Soooooo excited… https://www.instagram.com/p/Bu24_MclYR7/?utm_source=ig_twitter_share&igshid=5mgvra4d1ddb …”
First question is, do you think the church is guilty of putting people on a pedestal and then rejecting them when their true flawed nature is exposed? Should we be quick to dispose of our brothers and sisters when they make mistakes or should we not be gentle and build them up as the God’s word tell us:
Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted.
This also brings up the age old question, would you divorce your spouse just because they cheated on you or do you forgive them because of the vows you took before God?
Let us know your thoughts in the comments!
John & Aventer Gray Image Source: Daystar