How To Love Difficult People


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How many times do you struggle to love someone who is difficult to you? (Pause and let this be a moment of truth) No matter how saved and sanctified we are, there are times in life we encounter people who are difficult to love. I remember when I was in high school and there used to be this really mean girl. I used to always try my best to be kind towards her no matter the circumstances. However, the more courteous and kind I was towards her, its as if I gave her more ammunition to have it out for me.

If you’ve ever encountered mean kids at school, then you know loving people like this can be really difficult. People who are unkind are hard to love. But, every time this girl made me mad, I would constantly remember a scripture my mother taught me when I was a little child.

1 John 4:20

“If a man say, “I love God,” and hateth his brother, he is a liar. For he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?”

So how did I do it? How can we all handle all the difficult people and difficult personalities?

1: Always remember that most of us sang in Sunday school:

“Jesus loves the little children, all the children of the world……. they’re all precious in his sight…….”

The bible reminds us that we are all precious and valuable in Gods sight. God loves us all and wants to have a relationship with us. Therefore, no matter how mean some people are, always try and remind yourself that they too may just need a little love sprinkled over them. They are Gods workmanship and also deserve to be loved.

Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous–how well I know it. – Psalm 139:14

2: No matter how mean some people can be towards you, always remember that your value should always be firmly planted in what God says about you. Just because someone isn’t kind to you doesn’t mean that you’re not important. You have value to God and His opinion is the one that counts.

How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! – Psalm 139:17


3: Sometimes, we are the only Jesus people will see.

Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples. – John 13:35

Therefore, let us be mindful of our actions and words. Always choose love over hate and fear. Perfect love casts out fear. Never return evil with evil.

What steps do you take to help you love those who are difficult to love? Let us know in the comment section.


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